Once not so long ago, the naive me thought that love and relationship is made up of romance, fairy tale weddings, honesty and perhaps peppered with lots of gift exchanges. These days, well, I don't really think I feel that old, but that certain maturity tells me that I believe in trust more when comes to relationship. I have been caught in a situation of betrayal before, so I know very well I will not be able to trust again, no matter how hard I tried to revive the relationship after that.
However, if you would ask me if trust is all it takes to make a relationship works, I say no way to that. A woman that do no want to be labelled as the typical blonde should sticks out her antenna and be very alert to her relationship all time. She should be warned even thought there is a slightest changes to this relationship. After all, you just don't want to be the last one to know why you were ditch isn't it? Spying they might call it, but from time to time you just got to test water even thought you can get burn from it. Alas, the fate of a woman looking to complete her ideal life is so sad and depressing! I guess, be careful and dont get discovered is the only way to this.
It does not neccesary mean that you are suspecting him trying to two time outside, it could be an indirect observation to learn the better side of him. Trust me, it will give tremendous positive effect if you do it right. For example, seeing him looking at particular shirt, and you buy it as a birthday gift for him later to surprise him. He could feel that he is treasured, and there you go, a guy that love you more.
Man, in general sense they don't take a lot to maintain. In fact, most of them are pretty self sustain these days as they live alone while studying in oversea. Don't assume they are guys and you don't need shower them with TLC (Tender Loving Care). They appreciate TLC just like us girl, but in reality guys are too 'man' to manja for it.
Anyway, I am not into TLC part today. What I need to say is that, being alert in a relationship, is actually more important for the woman. It is one essential way to protect ourselves from being hurt. Man are so irresistable when you get closer to them at the first place, but be careful they can take your pride and self esteem away at the time you are least aware of. Look at my close friend, few get two timed, while some still refuse to leave because they actually looking for the silver linings to come by one of these days. Doh...
It is a vicious cycle nonetheless. We try our very best to find out what our love ones are doing behind our back, on the hand we have fear deep within our heart wondering if we could handle the worst truth if we find out. But I guess, a perfect life too consist of take risk at one point of time. After all, when we look back at what we do, what most essential is that we still care for this person, which was why we were doin this act at the first place. If our heart decides to move on, all the fear and insecurity caused by such scenario does not matter anymore to us.